I am not sure if heartlessness is an actual word, but it is today in my blogger world.
I use the title "True heartlessness" due to it's ever so growing nature which of that is not called out enough, well I'm calling the heartless out today because I am sick of it.
As my last posted stated I had shoulder surgery last week, leaving me in a sling for the next 6 weeks...doesn't sound that bad right? But let's break this down...
My proposal to everyone for tomorrow is, try to do EVERYTHING one handed, with no help,almost none at all, from your other hand. (Make your dominate hand the one you can't use)
Things I never thought of that I/you cannot do...
1. Shower, you can put shampoo in your hand to put it in your hair.
2. Drive, it's illegal to drive with a sling
3. Write, I can only type but it's slower than most grandmothers, the constant peeking at keys is annoying.
4. Tie your shoes
5. Put your hair up
6. Zipper something up or twist a top
Just to name a few...but this not a pitty party for me, just an introduction to how heartless people are..
I can count on two hands everyday how many people let the door slam in my face, they see i am injured, i mean if i wasn't you would still think people have some common curiosity. What happened to chivalry?
Or how many people see I can't grab something or I am slow and they get mad and push me asaide....how rude.
Now I am someone who will get better and will have two arms soon, but imagine life really handicapped? Or all the Haitians, who will never recieve the medical help they deserve?
People are heartless, recognize the "small" blessing we all have in life and rethink the things we complain about, I know I have.
I can count on two hands everyday how many people let the door slam in my face, they see i am injured, i mean if i wasn't you would still think people have some common curiosity. What happened to chivalry?
Or how many people see I can't grab something or I am slow and they get mad and push me asaide....how rude.
Now I am someone who will get better and will have two arms soon, but imagine life really handicapped? Or all the Haitians, who will never recieve the medical help they deserve?
People are heartless, recognize the "small" blessing we all have in life and rethink the things we complain about, I know I have.
Kim !!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to read what a tough time you are having after your surgery. However, in fact yes it is true, people aren't the same as they use to be!! Where did the common curiosity go?? I can't tell you how many times for myself even without a sling on,I have had a door shut in my face or dropped something and no one helped me pick it up. The answer to this is simple, its called technology. The fact is that everyone is so rapped up with using it they forget what it's like to just be polite and kind to others. Honestly, watch next week. When you get close to the door, whoever is infront of you I guarantee they will be on their phone or texting someone.Therefore, not paying a bit of attention to others( as in you with the sling). It is just so sad how dependent people have gotten with technology. When if in fact they payed alittle attention maybe their carma points would go up !! HAHA
GET BETTER SOON !
Being handicapped can be one of the most psychological, and emotional events in anyones life. I've been fortunate enough to never injure any part of my body to the point where I needed a cast, sling, surgery, etc. However, my most recent memory of injuring myself occurred when I fractured my dominate hand's thumb. I didn't realize this until months later, because it still hurt terribly. I was naive and simply thought I jammed my thumb. The amount of actions that I was unable to perform after I hurt my thumb angered, frustrated, and pissed me off. Not only that, but it was hard for people to understand that my thumb was hurt when I didn't show any visible signs of hurt or attempted recovery (a sling, a splint, etc.) Unfortunately, there are a lot of "heartless" people out there. But I believe that there are thrice as many people out there who care and aren't "heartless." Sorry you have to go through this, but from now on until you recover, you can show people just how non-heartless the world can be.
ReplyDeleteThat's so awful that people won't even hold the door for you! Maybe they don't notice your sling (or they notice but don't fully comprehend that the sling makes you temporarily handicapped). I would like to think this is the case, but it's probably not. Other people are so lazy (ok, I'm pretty lazy too I have to admit, but I would definitely hold the door for you!) so they're not willing to take the extra second and extra energy to hold the door for you. I think most American's act this way because we grow up having so much with so many opportunities and such easy lives that we don't even think about the fact that people in other countries or handicapped people have daily difficulties that we could never even imagine. It sucks, but I also don't have a solution on how to make our culture be less "heartless." At least on the bright side of your injury, you've experienced a new state of life that most don't get to understand, and now you'll be a better person because of it and probably think of others more often! I know I will.
ReplyDeletePeople are stupid! I want to know who these people are that won’t hold a door for someone that has a cast on! I grew up to care for those that are handicapped, (and even though yours is temporarily) I tend to over exaggerate my helpfulness. For the fact that I raised a dog for a handicapped person kind of says it all in itself.
ReplyDeleteI am more focused on the inconsiderate people there are out there that only think of themselves if another needs help! Has any parent ever taught manners to their child? How, as a COM major and all the skills that has been taught to us about kindness and no verbal behavior. People can be so rude.
I hope the surgery was successful and that you are doing better.
Ps. I never knew that it was illegal to drive with a sling on!?
it's interesting to read your blog - i am usually holding at least one child, so I can understand where you're coming from with doing things one handed - typing, cooking, cleaning, etc., but at least I have the ability to put him/her down. I read this earlier and since have been thinking about how often I do work one handed, but how many I actually have to set her down to do something - it must be so frustrating for you NOT to be able to do those things at all. Hang in there! It's good though - think what a kind and compassionate person you'll be when this is over - you'll never get anywhere you'll be so busy holding the door open for other people :) haha!
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